So you want to date a Dominant woman?
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I can’t say that I blame you.
Dominant women wear their confidence well, have a wildly creative mind, and usually a fun surprise or two up their sleeves.
We know what we like and how we like it, so your approach may need to change.
Make sure you do your research on your individual lady to find what she likes and keep reading for tips on how to woo your intended:
Ask how She likes to be addressed:
Some Dominas prefer to be addressed by honorifics in public. An honorific is a title that signifies respect and heightens the power dynamic between people.
Ask your intended how she likes to be called.
Miss, Goddess, and Domina are all popular titles.
When unsure of how to address her, I believe "Miss" is respectful and independent of age.
Please be advised that Doninatrixes also lead “vanilla” lives outside of their work/ play and may not want to be called “Mistress” in public. When in doubt, just ask.
Along those lines … and I really wish I didn’t have to say this but don’t bring up sex.
She is fetishized enough as it is and this will send up and immediate red flag.
Plan the date:
Dominatrixes often spend our time planning and creating experiences for other people so it is nice to have someone do that for us.
Think on a couple of different activities that she might enjoy and present her with options.
Women love options
Does she enjoy attending the ballet? How about a traditional dinner date or afternoon coffee? Maybe she craves something more adventurous like axe throwing?
The more unique the better.
You want your experience to stand out and create positive memories so you stay on her fascinating mind.
Bring an offering:
Flowers are always a classy and classic option.
Maybe some dark chocolates or a candle.
Your gift does not have to be extravagant, just heartfelt.
These little gifts will show her that you have been thinking about her in the days or weeks leading up to your date.
I remember a few years ago a new client arrived to our first session with a bundle of wild sage and a coffee table book filled with wonderful illustrations of plants.
When I opened his thoughtful gift I was surprised to find a beautifully handwritten poem inside.
It was certainly a thoughtful gesture in the moment, but more than that I appreciated that he took the time to learn about me and read up on my interests before arriving.
To this day I still proudly display that book in my bookcase.
Be clear with your intentions:
She may ask you during your meeting but even if she doesn’t, politely state your intentions.
This could sound like
I am looking for a play partner to meet with once a month or
I am looking for a long-term committed female-led relationship or
I am looking for coaching and training
She will appreciate your clarity and authenticity. Both look good on you.
With these tips you should be well on your way to making a great impression.
If you are interested in learning to secure a date with the Dominatrix of your dreams I am happy to help. Reach out to Lila@MissLilaSage.com to connect with me.
